Advance your relationship to new heights
Love, Advanced.
Life on the open sea
Life is never plain sailing and in between the days of beautiful oceans and peerless skis are turbulent seas and storms waiting to capsize you.
You never know what’s over the horizon and even the best relationship can be tested to breaking point under the sudden, pressures of bereavement, unemployment, moving home or a change of employment.
Unbreakable bonds
Whatever your future, you can navigate it through investing in each other. By coupling together the strengths you have individually, you magnifying them and become unbreakable.
Doing this now, while things are good, means you’re building on solid foundations - the bedrock of your lives together.
Achieving your life goals, together in unity
We can’t predict the future but we can prepare and plan and mold it, day by day, to our goals. We help you achieve the goals and potential in your life whilst optimizing your relationship so it’s better, stronger and more resilient than ever before. We’re here to help you facilitate that through a unique program that will advance your relationship to the next level and beyond.
Here are some of the results you can expect from interself Advance
How the course is delivered
Videos
5x20 minute videos designed to give you both the tools to understand and maintain your relationship. These are yours forever.
One-to-One Counseling
2x50 minute individual sessions that will explore and resolve the feelings you have in a completely safe and non-judgemental environment.
Two-to-One Counseling
7x70 minute sessions that give us the 'deep-dive' into your relationship. In these sessions we will help your relationship back to full-health.
Workbooks & Checklists
Simple pocket guides to help keep our work together on track and benefiting you throughout your days together.
Journals
Helping you organise your thoughts in ways which enable you to easily process your feelings.
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A strong alignment between you both, giving you unified direction and goals.
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Clear, meaningful communication limiting misunderstandings.
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Readiness and ease to deal with any practical matter so that it gives you both a win - win.
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Experience safety while experiencing vulnerability.
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Learning how to make decisions that give you freedom and security.
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Effective goal setting.
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Rejuvenated time together and a desire to create margin in your schedule.
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A deep sense of belonging between one another.
Learn yourself and your partner anew to grow stronger together.
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Chart a new destination for your future lives together with total confidence.
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Improved intimacy and a better sex life.
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Resolve history that previously locked up the partnership.
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Does this feel familiar?
As a couple, you’re on top of your game. You love, care, validate and understand each other. You are considerate, grateful and loving towards one another. Many seem to envy what you have and how you make it work.
So, you probably think that you don’t need any help with your relationship - after all there’s nothing to ‘fix’.
Although nothing is broken, even the best relationship can be improved through intentional planning and careful nurturing. Every relationship can be optimized.
There is still more you could achieve together. Imagine your lives without boundaries or barriers. What then could you accomplish?
The interself Advance program will help you uncover the hidden depths of your relationship to bring you closer together as never before. It will truly unlock your potential, so that you can achieve more as individuals and a couple.
interself's Advance program brings you even closer together and positions you for in the future, by instilling your relationship with the ability to self-perpetuate through self-maximizing no matter what may lay in the coming months and years. Keep reading to learn more...
Advance: Program value
Advance is an 8-week program that will optimize and deeply strengthen your relationship, enabling you to weather any storms whilst still achieving your individual and combined goals.
The program includes:
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7 x 70 minute two-to-one sessions
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2 x 50 minute individual sessions
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5 x 20 minute maintain and advance videos for you to keep
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Workbooks, journals and more to help your relationship grow
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A healthy, loving, supportive, energized relationship, advanced to new heights.
interself Advance
Going higher, going deeper
A relationship course like no other
interself Advance is a unique program for couples who want to optimize their relationship so they can achieve their goals and strengthen their bonds.
It is suited to any couple that has scored over 95%+ on our quiz and wants their relationship to be the best it can be and reach its maximum potential.
It is a combination of live two-to-one sessions, individual sessions, videos, and homework carefully constructed over a 8-week period to bring lasting positive change to your relationship and advance to the next level and beyond.
The interself guarantee
We care deeply about the results you get from Advance. And we want you to be absolutely confident in the course and how it will help you both. So, if you feel, at any point within the first week that this is not for you, then we will refund you money - no quibble, no questions. This is our cast-iron promise to you.
About Dr. Mark Allen
interself Founder
Mark has over two decades of experience working with both individuals and couples.
Drawing from multiple graduate degrees in philosophy, psychology, theology and complex and social systems theory, Mark has developed a unique model to actively nurture personal formation and healing by actively engaging life through relationships.
Prior to founding interself, Mark’s professional activities included work as a professor, divisional sales manager for a Fortune 500 company and the founding of two successful businesses. He worked his way through college as a radio announcer and has also served as a volunteer chaplain for nearly three decades.
Born and raised in Southwest Iowa, he lived in Denver for ten years before moving to California in 2010. He now resides in Folsom, CA with his wife Vanessa and basset hound Watson.
Take the next step to a bright and beautiful future with your partner and sign up for a complimentary private session.
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Is a counseling program right for you?
If you feel embarrassed
Everyone needs help once in a while - there is no shame or embarrassment in that. After all, if you were lost in the Australian outback with no food or water and you stumbled across a Aborigine tribesman you would gladly accept their help.
Your counselor is your guide through your relationship - helping you reach a place where you are both happy, comfortable and fulfilled.
And because all our programs are integrated we can help your relationship naturally progress from wherever it is now to good, to great and beyond.
If you feel overwhelmed
If you feel a little daunted by the idea of a counseling session, please don’t be - that’s entirely natural and normal. We have more than a decade’s experience in making sure that our couples feel completely comfortable and relaxed during our sessions. And each session will step you towards a better, healthier relationship.
If your partner doesn’t want counseling
The big difficulty many couples find is that one wants the help whilst the other does not. How do you get around this?
Truthfully, you can’t, and you shouldn’t – if one partner is not ready then, they’re not ready. But what interself offers is not traditional counseling, it’s very different. It even has a guarantee, and the first session is FREE.
At the end of the session, you will have two choices. Either:
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Take the information you’ve learned about each other and put it into practice with our blessing, or
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Carry on to the next step with us as your guide.
Either way, the time you spend will bring a new bond and closeness to one another that you will treasure.
Take the next step to a new level in your relationship. Fill in the form below to book your FREE session.
Here’s what to do next
Your future Advanced relationship is within reach.
It is within your grasp, and it only requires that, together, you take a small but significant step towards a happy, bright, loving future.
What’s the next step?
You can’t buy Advance off the peg. First, we have to make sure it’s the right fit for you and the best way to do that is to give you a 25-minute FREE counseling session with one of our skilled qualified counselors.
In our FREE session together you and your partner will work directly with a professional counselor. Please note, this is note a sales call! This is a serious, focused private session and is designed to help you both.
At the end of the session you should already find that you have taken noticeable steps forwards and have enjoyed our time together. We will also advise you on the best course of action for you.
Please note that everything you discuss and any data you provide is handled with extreme care, security and never passed on to any third party.
During our introductions we will get to understand your individual personalities and how they come together to create the dynamic of your relationship. Will do some (fun, honest!) personality testing to begin our journey together by mapping the territory of you as individuals. It provides a fascinating exploration of you and your partner often revealing things about yourself that you of which you were unaware. It casts a light across your personality to uncover things which begin to explain why you are who you are.
Plus, we'll also have individual sessions so we can review the personality testing and set you both up for success together.
It’s exciting, because it gifts to you the knowledge of yourself – something which we rarely understand in full and without which we cannot reach our full potential.
Introductions
What is Dynamic Understanding? It is what makes your relationship unique or you could say 'how we are together'. This module helps you understand your own nature and your relationship so you can successfully navigate your lives together. It will help you be 'intentional' about making healthy choices for your relationship. Some of the things we'll cover include;
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Rules and expectations you apply to each other / learning the dynamic of your relationship from the personality tests
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How you 'process' your lives together / how you empathise
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And much more.
How does it help? The benefit to this is that it helps you both bond and unlocks your potential in a way that enables you to recognize the depth of your relationship. It also helps you create openness between one another. It gives you the foundation from which you can fully engage in the following modules of Communication and Mutual Planning. Think of this module as the platform from which you will launch your future together.
How is the module delivered? Through individual and two-to-one sessions and by reviewing how you both interact. This will help you relate to one another at a higher level than you might have before. Plus, there's some fun homework, workbooks, video content and more so you can stay on course, refining and optimising your relationship in between our meetings.
Dynamic Understanding
What is Affirming Communication? Communication is the glue of your relationship, which enables you to share your feelings whilst simultaneously taking care of the other person's feelings. We'll cover topics such as, empathy in resolving conflict.
How does it help? This module will help you find ways to communicate with each other which enable you to address even the most sensitive issues without rupturing your love and connection. Together we'll help you understand how you can create new communication patterns, which actively draw you both closer together to create more unity and harmony.
How is the module delivered? We'll practice Affirming Communication together in our individual and two-to-one sessions so you can identify the opportunities to share more effectively. Plus there's the usual fun homework, videos, workbooks and more to help keep you on course between sessions.
Affirming Communication
What is Mutual Planning? This is simply, planning that works for both of you without forcing one of you to sell out. Some of the areas we'll work on are; day to day demands / managing obligations / crafting time for yourselves / resolving mutually exclusive plans
How does it help? Seeing the 'us' instead of 'me' enables you to create a deep mutual respect and connection that achieves more together than you could individually.
How is the module delivered? During our two-to-one sessions we'll use a series of techniques that first align your relationship before making practical decisions. This helps you both have 'buy-in' to all your decisions and creates solutions the neither of you may have thought of before! Plus, there's the usual videos, workbooks and journals to help keep you on course between sessions.
Mutual Planning
What is Reflecting Together? In the final module we show you how to take all the information you’ve already learned in the previous modules to find a flow in your relationship that cultivates peak experiences. We use a simple set of guidelines, approaches and understandings tailored to your relationships specific needs.
How does it help? It helps you solidify what you've learned and turn it into a set of practical skills you can use in your everyday life. It turns the knowledge into easy authentic automatic habits that benefit you both and create more 'highs' in your relationship - the module helps you grow in lasting respect for one another
How is the module delivered? We'll work together on both individual and two-to-one sessions, plus (yes, you've guessed it) some homework with workbooks, videos, journals and more to keep you on course between the sessions.