Align your relationship and
deepen the love between you
Love, Aligned.
The myth of love
There's a myth that if love is lessening over time, it cannot regrow. As the great Stephen Covey said "Love is a verb". He was implying that you create love through your actions.
It's possible to love someone without being 'in love' with them. That's when couples are in a stable but unexciting relationship - where the fun of being together has given way to the 'everyday'
Love is a living thing
Love is truly a living thing - as alive as you. If left without nourishment it can fade but equally it can regrow given the right conditions.
So, if you feel that your relationship is solid but lacklustre now is the time to take the steps to put it back on course and help it flourish, once again.
Your route to happiness
Everyone needs help and advice once in a while. At points we all take career advice or advice how to spend our money or even advice on life decisions. Getting advice and counselling on your relationship should feel and be no different.
interself's Counseling is about helping you build the relationship you both want and maintaining its health and wellbeing. We're here to help you facilitate that through a unique program that will Align your relationship and your love for one another.
Here are some of the results you can expect from interself Align
How the course is delivered
Videos
5x20 minute videos designed to give you both the tools to understand and maintain your relationship. These are yours forever.
One-to-One Counseling
2x50 minute individual sessions that will explore and resolve the feelings you have in a completely safe and non-judgemental environment
Two-to-One Counseling
6x70 minute sessions that give us the 'deep-dive' into your relationship. In these sessions we will help your relationship back to full-health
Workbooks & Checklists
Simple pocket guides to help keep our work together on track and benefiting you throughout your days together.
Journals
Helping you organise your thoughts in ways which enable you to easily process your feelings.
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A strong alignment between you, giving you unified direction and goals
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Clear, meaningful communication with fewer misunderstandings.
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Being able to deal with practical matters in a way that works for both of you.
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Turning disagreements into opportunities without causing friction.
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Not compromising on what you both want … even if you want opposite things.
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Regaining your ‘balance’ again and always feel centered.
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More time for each other without having to rework your whole calendar.
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A deep sense of belonging between one another
Uncovering things about your partnership you never knew and learning how to use them to grow stronger together.
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Charting new journeys and unearthing new destinations for your future lives together.
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Improved intimacy and better sex life.
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Ignite the spark between you both at any time entirely naturally.
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Does this feel familiar?
You know you're in a good relationship. It's stable, steady, and you feel safe with one another.
But perhaps you've noticed that it feels different to how it was a couple of years ago?
On occasions, you might feel that you've both become complacent or take each other for granted too often - sometimes forgetting the simple courtesies that can lead you to feel underappreciated.
It's not unusual to find that couples know each other so well they forget to nurture each other.
Or it might be that work or kids seem to loom large in your life unintentionally dampening your relationship and that you both lurch from holiday to holiday missing the opportunities in between.
Your relationship is fundamentally sound but neither of you are winning any 'Partner of the Year' awards! And whilst you still value each other you don't appreciate each other as much as you used to.
All this can leave you feeling like you're sometimes 'dancing on your own'
The good news is that your relationship only needs a little work to bring it back to how it was when you first met - to release the joy and deep love within you both.
Keep reading to discover how...
Align: Program value
Align is a 7-week program which will bring you both closer than ever before enabling you to re-establish the deep connection between you.
The program includes:
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6x70 minute two-to-one sessions
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2x50 minute individual sessions
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5x20 minute maintain and align videos for you to keep
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Workbooks, journals and more to help your relationship grow
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A healthy, loving, supportive, energised and Aligned relationship
interself Align
Turn good into great
interself Align: A relationship course like no other
interself Align is a unique counseling course for couples who want to reconnect.
It is suited to anyone who wants more from their relationship, wants to optimize it or feels it's in need of some adjustment to get you both back on track.
Align is a combination of live two-to-one counseling, individual counseling, videos, and homework carefully constructed over a 7-week period to bring lasting positive change to your relationship.
The interself guarantee
We care deeply about the results you get from Align. And we want you to be absolutely confident in the course and how it will help you both. So, if you feel, at any point within the first week that this is not for you, then we will refund you money - no quibble, no questions. This is our cast-iron promise to you.
About Dr. Mark Allen
interself Founder
Mark has over two decades of experience working with both individuals and couples.
Drawing from multiple graduate degrees in philosophy, psychology, theology and complex and social systems theory, Mark has developed a unique model to actively nurture personal formation and healing by actively engaging life through relationships.
Prior to founding interself, Mark’s professional activities included work as a professor, divisional sales manager for a Fortune 500 company and the founding of two successful businesses. He worked his way through college as a radio announcer and has also served as a volunteer chaplain for nearly three decades.
Born and raised in Southwest Iowa, he lived in Denver for ten years before moving to California in 2010. He now resides in Folsom, CA with his wife Vanessa and basset hound Watson.
Take the next step to a bright and beautiful future with your partner by signing up for a complimentary private session.
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Is a counseling program right for you?
If you feel embarrassed
Everyone needs help once in a while - there is no shame or embarrassment in that. After all, if you were lost in the Australian outback with no food or water and you stumbled across a Aborigine tribesman you would gladly accept their help.
Your counselor is your guide through your relationship - helping you reach a place where you are both happy, comfortable and fulfilled.
And because all our programs are integrated we can help your relationship naturally progress from wherever it is now to good, to great and beyond.
If you feel overwhelmed
If you feel a little daunted by the idea of a counseling session, please don’t be - that’s entirely natural and normal. We have more than a decade’s experience in making sure that our couples feel completely comfortable and relaxed during our sessions. And each session will step you towards a better, healthier relationship
If your partner doesn’t want counseling
The big difficulty many couples find is that one wants the help whilst the other does not.
How do you get around this?
Truthfully, you can’t, and you shouldn’t – if one partner is not ready then, they’re not ready. But what interself offers is not traditional counseling, it’s very different. It even has a guarantee, and the first session is FREE.
At the end of the session, you will have two choices. Either:
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Take the information you’ve learned about each other and put it into practice with our blessing, or
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Carry on to the next step with us as your guide.
Either way, the time you spend will bring a new bond and closeness to one another that you will treasure.
Take the next step to a new level in your relationship. Fill in the form below to book your FREE session.
Here’s what to do next
You future Aligned relationship is within reach. It is within your grasp, and it only requires that, together, you take a small but significant step towards a happy, bright, loving future.
What’s the next step?
First, we have to make sure Align is the right fit for you. The best way to do that is to give you a 25-minute FREE counseling session with one of our skilled, qualified counselors.
In our 25-minute session together you and your partner will work directly with a professional counselor. Please note, this is not a sales call - it is time spent enabling us to advise you on the best course of action for you as a couple.
During our introductions we will get to understand your individual personalities and how they come together to create the dynamic of your relationship. Will do some (fun, honest!) personality testing to begin our journey together by mapping the territory of you as individuals. It provides a fascinating exploration of you and your partner often revealing things about yourself that you of which you were unaware. It casts a light across your personality to uncover things which begin to explain why you are who you are.
Plus, we'll also have individual sessions so we can review the personality testing and set you both up for success together.
It’s exciting, because it gifts to you the knowledge of yourself – something which we rarely understand in full and without which we cannot reach our full potential.
Introductions
What is Dynamic Understanding? It is what makes your relationship unique or you could say 'how we are together'. This module helps you understand your own nature and your relationship so you can successfully navigate your lives together. It will help you be 'intentional' about making healthy choices for your relationship. Some of the things we'll cover include;
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Rules and expectations you apply to each other / learning the dynamic of your relationship from the personality tests
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How you 'process' your lives together / how you empathise
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And much more.
How does it help? The benefit to this is that it helps you both bond and unlocks your potential in a way that enables you to recognize the depth of your relationship. It also helps you create openness between one another. It gives you the foundation from which you can fully engage in the following modules of Communication and Mutual Planning. Think of this module as the platform from which you will launch your future together.
How is the module delivered? Through individual and two-to-one sessions and by reviewing how you both interact. This will help you relate to one another at a higher level than you might have before. Plus, there's some fun homework, workbooks, video content and more so you can stay on course, refining and optimising your relationship in between our meetings.
Dynamic Understanding
What is Affirming Communication? Communication is the glue of your relationship, which enables you to share your feelings whilst simultaneously taking care of the other person's feelings. We'll cover topics such as, empathy in resolving conflict.
How does it help? This module will help you find ways to communicate with each other which enable you to address even the most sensitive issues without rupturing your love and connection. Together we'll help you understand how you can create new communication patterns, which actively draw you both closer together to create more unity and harmony.
How is the module delivered? We'll practice Affirming Communication together in our individual and two-to-one sessions so you can identify the opportunities to share more effectively. Plus there's the usual fun homework, videos, workbooks and more to help keep you on course between sessions.
Affirming Communication
What is Mutual Planning? This is simply, planning that works for both of you without forcing one of you to sell out. Some of the areas we'll work on are; day to day demands / managing obligations / crafting time for yourselves / resolving mutually exclusive plans
How does it help? Seeing the 'us' instead of 'me' enables you to create a deep mutual respect and connection that achieves more together than you could individually.
How is the module delivered? During our two-to-one sessions we'll use a series of techniques that first align your relationship before making practical decisions. This helps you both have 'buy-in' to all your decisions and creates solutions the neither of you may have thought of before! Plus, there's the usual videos, workbooks and journals to help keep you on course between sessions.
Mutual Planning
What is Reflecting Together? In the final module we show you how to take all the information you’ve already learned in the previous modules to find a flow in your relationship that cultivates peak experiences. We use a simple set of guidelines, approaches and understandings tailored to your relationships specific needs.
How does it help? It helps you solidify what you've learned and turn it into a set of practical skills you can use in your everyday life. It turns the knowledge into easy authentic automatic habits that benefit you both and create more 'highs' in your relationship - the module helps you grow in lasting respect for one another
How is the module delivered? We'll work together on both individual and two-to-one sessions, plus (yes, you've guessed it) some homework with workbooks, videos, journals and more to keep you on course between the sessions.
Reflecting Together
What’s on the course
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